1-Do I love God so much that I could lose my wife and obey Him to the point of not mourning her and not question God in what He is doing? The truth is the same today. If my wife dies, God had complete control over it. So do I have such a zealous jealous love for God that I could lose my wife and obey God perfectly and trust Him perfectly in all that He commands, no matter what?
2-How much sin is running rampant in my life that God needs to discipline me by taking away people from my life? God is still in the business of disciplining His people because God’s glory still matters the most. What do I need to repent of right now, so that I can stay the hand of God from my life in discipline? I do not want to lose anyone or anything from my life, so I must walk in daily repentance or else God’s discipline will take place and I could lose someone or something. (Ezekiel was not being disciplined by God in 24 but the death of his wife happened to show and was connect to, the discipline of God, on His sinful rebellious people.)